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How To Get Out Of A Negative Mindset

At times it is inevitable that we're going to feel crappy or not feel good about ourselves. We need to recognise that how we're feeling is normal but we should not continue feeling like this. There will be times when we're going to think this period will last forever but I promise you this is not the case and you will overcome this negative mindset. 

I'm going to be sharing 8 ways on How To Get Out Of A Negative Mindset. 

1) Ask yourself: Do I want to be happy or sad?

This is a really important question to ask yourself because ultimately, you as a human being has every right to be happy. So much time gets wasted in thinking negatively that it's all you focus on and put your energy towards. Don't you want to let go and just be happy? Don't you owe that to yourself? We need to understand that adopting a negative mindset is a choice. If we continue to bring ourselves down and can't help ourselves, then how do we expect other people to help us? Only YOU alone can get out of a negative mindset, so allow yourself to let go of the negativity and bring goodness into your life. Next time your feeling negative, ask yourself "Do I want to be happy or sad?". 

2) Work on whatever is bringing you down

We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. That's how life is. But did you know you can work on each of the things bringing you down and come out the other side a happier person? I started doing this when I was at the lowest point in my life and this truly helped increase my self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. You have the power to make a change, it just requires you to believe in yourself and start taking action. And would you not encourage a family member or best friend to do the same?

3) Do more of what makes you happy

I've spoken about this so much but there's a genuine reason why I keep bringing it up. Doing what makes you happy is something i'm very passionate about and it's something you should be passionate about too. You don't want to live a miserable life where all you do is work and look forward to the weekends. Because that's not living, that's existing and you're doing what society is telling you to do. Take control of your own life and do what sparks a fire in you. I highly recommend watching this video to inspire you to do what makes you happy.

4) Communicate with positive people

Do you notice how happy you become when you communicate with positive people? This is because positive people find ways to be happy and they're continuously looking for ways to improve. They appreciate what they have and they want other people to feel how they do. By engaging with positive people, we focus less on negativity and turn our attention on other things, which is one of the best ways to get out of a negative mindset. Positive people can take you out of the darkness and bring you into the light. So find three positive people in your life and stick with them. 

5) Eliminate negativity from other people

As someone who's in the company of negative people, I want to tell you that it's one of the hardest things to be positive. You have to be strong and constantly remind yourself that you don't want to live how they live or think how they live. You are better than this. Whilst we can't completely remove negative people from our life (i.e. family members), we can eliminate how much time we spend and engage in conversations with them. What you should remember is that you shouldn't allow negative people make you into a negative person. 

6) Realise this is just a phase

The sooner you realise this, the better it is. This can save you so much time in the long run and instead, you can put your energy towards becoming a better person and working on what's important to you. Take on board the life lessons you've learn from this phase and apply that to other areas of your life. This will prevent you from making the same mistakes in the future and you'll be able to let go a lot quicker. 

7) Don't do nothing

The worst thing you can do in a negative mindset is sit around and do nothing. You'll have additional time to dwell on your thoughts and will continue feeling miserable. It won't make you feel better, it'll make you feel worse. Try to practice gratitude or think of three things that you've accomplished that week. I guarantee you'll feel better. Remember you've accomplished so many things in life so don't let negative thoughts, feelings or people bring you down. It's not worth it. So get up, get dressed and take on the day. 

8) Say one nice thing about yourself every morning

I stumbled upon this idea from Adelaine Morin's Youtube video 12 Tips To Be A Badass! and something I wish I did years ago! Look in the mirror each morning and say one nice thing about yourself. It can be something like 'I like your hair today' or 'I like the way you complimented that person yesterday'. The more you say these things about yourself, the more you will believe it. And it really will set the tone for the rest of your day. Try this out and see how you feel.

We all go through moments in our life where we're either surrounded by negativity, in a negative situation or adopt a negative mindset but know that you can get out of it. I have good days and I have bad days just like everybody else. The most important thing is knowing when to ask for help. So if you're in a negative mindset, I pray you come out of it and start having happiness in your life. 

With Love,

Adeeba x


  1. Points 4 and 5 really hit home for me. I struggle with this because most of the time, the negative people are in your own family. Great job on this post, I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. :)

    1. It's difficult when they're part of your family but don't let them get to you. Remind yourself of who you are and what you stand for. Aw thankyou, glad you enjoyed it :)

  2. Such a good reminder to do what makes you happy! I'm usually too focused on being productive that I forget to slow down and do fun things also!

    1. Honestly same! Definitely make time for it :)

  3. Enjoyed reading this and such a good reminder to be kinder to yourself and make time for yourself too

    1. I love the tips about doing what you love and not doing nothing. It sometimes feels like we should do nothing cos we don't have the energy too, or even as if we don't deserve to do what we enjoy but you're so right. I love this post and you're beautiful blog - a heartfelt piece!

    2. Thankyouu! Doing what we love is what we owe to ourselves.

  4. Love your tips! Especially 6) is important, sometimes it seems the current phase is forever, but it's not.
    What I also like to do to be positive again, is to get active, get into nature or just take some time off for myself. It's wholesome. :)

  5. Love your helpful points!


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