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Why You Should Put Yourself First

People who put themselves first were considered selfish. This not true. Putting yourself first means you are being kind to yourself, being more productive, and becoming a better person. You have decided to prioritize yourself. It's not selfish - it's a way of loving and respecting yourself. If we're constantly giving our time and energy to others, we will have nothing to give to ourselves. Investing in yourself is the most important investment you will ever make. You will never regret it. 

How do we put ourselves first?

1. Create your own happiness

Your happiness is in your own hands. Only you can control that. The sooner you realize this, the easier it will be for you to create your own happiness. Why spend so much time making other people happy, if you're going to be miserable yourself? You can't create happiness for other people, and they can't create happiness for you. That's something you have to do yourself. And you deserve all the happiness in the world💕

2. Take care of yourself

This includes your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. These are all areas of your life that are so important and deserve your full attention. It's only you who can take care of these things and ultimately, take care of yourself. If other people take care of themselves, why can't you? That's the least you owe to yourself. 

3. It teaches people how to treat you

If you put yourself last, people will also do that. As someone who used to put others before herself and got treated unfairly, I'm telling you it's not worth it. You have self-respect just like everybody else so treat yourself as you would want somebody else to treat you, and watch how people's behavior towards you starts to change for the better. 

4. People will stop taking you for granted

If your somebody who keeps saying 'yes' to people, then you need to start giving yourself the respect you deserve. Don't let people walk all over you. You can be kind and help people, but don't let anyone treat you like a pushover. People don't appreciate you because they know you'll always be there for them. But will they always be there for you? 

5. You'll realize that not everyone deserves you

People come and go, that's part of life and that's completely okay! But the moment you start putting yourself first, you'll notice that there will be people who will start to treat you differently or will start to walk away. Let them. They were only in your life to teach you a lesson. Accept the part they played and move on. Those who are meant to be in your life will stay. 

6. You are your own best friend

You've learned that you can't rely on others to be there for you or save you. So who do you have? Yourself. No one else in this world can be you and no one knows you, better than you. Being your own best friend means that you have to pick yourself up when your feeling down, remind yourself of who you are, help people close to you but not sacrificing your own mental sanity in the process.  

7. Your relationship with yourself improves

When you learn to put yourself first, you'll know what you're capable of. You'll start to value, respect, and appreciate yourself more. You will be there for the people you love, but you won't let them take advantage. You will be able to set boundaries and won't let anyone cross them. You will know what your likes and dislikes are. You will know what makes you happy, and what you love. 

It's finally time to put yourself as your number one priority and know that the key to being happy is taking care of yourself, loving yourself, and putting yourself first.

Adeeba x


  1. This is quite honestly my biggest weakness. Thank you for the amazing tips.


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